5 Therapy Techniques That Can Help Save A Relationship

5 Therapy Techniques That Can Help Save A Relationship

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Conflicts between couples are common, because no two individuals have the same thought process and world views. As such, learning how to deal with conflict becomes important, and that’s where couples’ counselling comes in. Husain Minawala, founder of Beyond Thoughts, counsellor, Vastu consultant and sacred geometry expert, says, “A counsellor can help analyse the behavioural patterns of the partners and identify those which lead to conflict. Counselling helps couples come together to really focus on themselves.” 

Couples face various challenges and problems in their relationship. Husain opines that effectively communicating problems with the partner is the core of a healthy relationship. “Effective communication means better understanding between the couple. If there is lack of communication between the couple, the counsellor will then act as a mediator and facilitate healthy and effective communication. Through therapy, the couple can start improving communication by eliminating habits such as constantly interrupting the other or speaking too much and not letting the other partner respond. Couple counselling can help partners address and confront underlying issues,” he adds. 

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Both partners need to be willing to undergo couple counselling if they are looking at addressing and confronting their problems. There are a wide range of approaches to couple therapy, and choosing the right one depends on the couple’s goals for their relationship. Husain gives an introduction to the different forms of therapy to guide you. 

Gottman Method 

This therapy method attends to the impact of negativity in relationships. “Approaching your partner with a positive orientation can lead to greater stability and empathy during arguments and otherwise upsetting situations,” says Husain. The Gottman Method can be used for partners who are facing challenges throughout all phases of the relationship, and can also be used with specific problems related to money, parenting, sex, and infidelity. It helps couples build tools for effectively working through conflict, proving effective for same-sex partnerships, couples of varying race, ethnicity, economic status, or religion. 

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Narrative Therapy 

This method may be helpful for couples who feel like their relationship is failing due to both of their faults. “The practice of narrative therapy revolves around people describing their problems in narrative form and rewriting their stories. By doing this, the couple gains a new perspective on the situation. It allows you to explore the past to bring to light negativities that otherwise remain hidden. Over time, with the use of narrative therapy, both partners are able to understand themselves better and separately from their problems and recognise how the language of their stories shapes their life and identity,” explains Husain. 

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Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) 

This therapy helps couples who are seeking to deepen intimacy and improve the quality of their interactions. Husain says, “Distress occurs when the fear of abandonment is triggered. EFT helps couples understand each other’s attachment needs and insecurities, so they can learn to respond to each other in more empathic, emotionally connected ways.” When couples learn to respond this way, they develop a more secure attachment. EFT can help couples understand their own emotional responses as well as the emotional responses of their partner. The goal of EFT is to help couples increase secure attachment and connection in their relationship. 

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Reflective Listening 

“The most common complaint coming from couples is that their partners do not listen to them. This problem is solved when the other partner becomes a better listener in a way that is evident to the other person, using a technique called Reflective Listening,” says Husain. This communication strategy involves two steps: seeking to understand what someone is saying, and repeating back to the speaker to confirm that the content has been understood correctly. Reflective listening tells your partner that you are really making an effort to understand what they are saying and genuinely interested in knowing what they have to say. 

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Imago Relationship Therapy 

This therapy views a couple’s problems as a result of unmet childhood needs and unhealed wounds that later become their sensitivities and cause conflicts or pain in relationships. “Imago concentrates on the connection between childhood experiences and adult relationships. The goal of the therapy is to bring these images into consciousness so that you can identify negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviours to help you understand the childhood experiences that impact how you behave towards your partner,” shares Husain. 

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